SECRETS FROM THE PASTIt’s been a while since a morning reading jumped out and bit me.THIS ONE DID!!We are shaped by our up bring, and people can only guess what happened behind closed doors. The ones that have been there understand.It is almost a standing joke when people talk about therapy/coaching that “Mom and Dad” caused it all.In this article there is a truth.From personal experiences then taking the journey of recovery, I am well aware of where childhood scars can lead us. I don’t know how many people I’ve worked with have not dealt with the past, but is a vast majority. As adults, sometimes late into life, memories of the past are still haunting and negatively impacting happiness.HAVE YOU THE COURAGE TO DEAL WITH THE SECRETS OF YOUR PAST??
It often seems that parents are always wrong, doing too much or too little, but never just enough. While it is true that they are often in error, they are usually doing the best they can, given their own upbringing and challenges. Every child receives both gifts and wounds from their parents. As we grow and evolve, our job is to learn to appreciate the gifts, even as we do what we can to heal the emotional injuries. As we learn in recovery, we cannot change the past, but we can alter our relationship to it. We do this by being willing to explore the darkness of some of the difficult things we experienced and by slowly connecting the dots to see how those early episodes still influence us.
Everyone harbors a shadow, where they tuck away things they would prefer not to see. It takes both courage and support to look at parts of our self that were rejected by our parents, society, and even us. Our shadow is a natural part of the self, a reservoir of human darkness, but also the wellspring of creative expression. We must first acknowledge and access it before we can accept it—thus bringing us closer to wholeness.Shining the light of awareness upon the shadow of my family wounds helps diminish the pain.KEITH BRAY Master Certified Coach www.coached2success.com
